Forgive Yourself and Others

Mark, you mention the importance of forgiving oneself, and I agree this is possible but what about forgiving the many who have let me down.

(Mark - The anger you feel is quite normal. Almost everybody gets angry when they're going off the drugs.

Drugs don't create the anger, but rather bring a lifetime of anger to the surface. Many would say -

Yeah. I used to think that too. Then I realized EVERYBODY has pent-up anger inside them. The longer you put off recognizing it, the worse it's gonna be once it starts to come out.

Giving yourself permission to feel and release your anger is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

Secondly, lack of forgiveness does create many problems and will certainly make life more painful.

You mention that it seems harder to forgive others than to forgive yourself. Yes, it can be. But it's much more important to forgive yourself, even if it involves someone else.

For example, I was wronged by another. I first need to forgive MYSELF for what THEY did to me. Why? Because I am not a passive observer in my life. I am a participant. I ALLOWED it on some level.

When I forgive myself first, I am acknowledging myself as a valuable human being.

Even in the most extreme case of child abuse, I believe the soul of that child knew who their parents would be and what would likely happen once they were born. Perhaps in an attempt at spiritual growth, perhaps for any number of reasons, the 'guiding forces' behind that innocent child knew of the potential for abuse, before the child was born.

Think of how much character and strength would have to be exhibited, for that child to forgive itself (and perhaps the offender). Think of how strong that would make a person - to overcome something so severe, and come out the other side as a much better person.

Yes, the abuser is guilty. Yes, the abuser deserves what's coming to them. But a tragic event can have positive outcomes.

Don't seek out tragedy. But if it happens, at least use it for the greater good.

Whether in a severe case, or in a much milder one, it's always important to forgive yourself FIRST, even if it seems it's the other person's fault.

Find your own contribution, or there will be nothing to forgive and things will stay the same. Find the strength to forgive, and you will be better for it. You can release the burden and become more of who you really are.

True forgiveness can work miracles in your life. For more info see this page on forgiveness.)

In addition to reading and perhaps learning from these comments, you also need to understand the hidden energies that control your life right now.

I almost feel guilty because my life has become so enjoyable and so easy. Especially since I remember how miserable I used to be.

Basically it comes down to making one slight shift in what you do everyday, and you can watch in amazement as your life slowly begins to start working out in almost every way.

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